As many of you know, I believe there is power in sleep and that power goes far beyond the scientific documentation of the physical benefits. It’s so powerful that militaries use sleep deprivation as a form of torture for prisoners of war. It’s one of the most heinous forms of torture because it’s effects can result in immune system breakdowns, heart defects, memory loss, confusion, hallucinations, inability to make decisions, psychosis, aches and pains, growth suppression, diabetes, and cardiovascular disease. As healers, we’re so quick to suggest dietary changes, herbs and other natural remedies for maladies yet we often forget about good old fashioned sleep.
What is Sleep? According to Webster’s dictionary, sleep is a condition of body and mind such as that which typically recurs for several hours every night, in which the nervous system is relatively inactive, the eyes closed, the postural muscles relaxed, and consciousness practically suspended.
Why do we need it? When we are asleep, our bodies use nutrients (we’ve either fed it or stimulated it to produce) to regenerate. During sleeping hours, most of the body is at total rest. The parts that aren’t are operating at a reduced capacity. With no energy going out for walking, talking, exercising, working, etc., our bodies direct all of that energy to healing.
Sleep isn’t just for healing the body. It’s also for healing the mind. While we sleep we dream. Dreams are the minds way of sorting through the thoughts and experiences of the day. Many people don’t realize they are dreaming because they haven’t trained themselves in dream recall. According to Medical News Today, the average person has 3-6 dreams per night.
Some historians have shared that the Atlantean’s never dreamed, which I find to be strange for such an advanced culture. Yet, when we plug in the fact that they practically lived in a bubble and did a great deal of metaphysical and spiritual work in their waking state, their need to dream could have been diminished. Some physicians use this to support their theory that people who have vivid dreams or participate in lucid dreams, astral traveling, or astral projection are mentally ill. As we all know, this is a gross misunderstanding of the spirit realm.
Speaking of the spirit realm, when our physical body sleeps, our astral body travels. That’s why dream work is crucial to the life of the metaphysician and spiritual healer. It’s crucial for everyone however, not all of us have elected to be time lords who master the reincarnation cycle in this lifetime. We can learn techniques to intentionally participate in our dreams versus letting our minds take us on a journey. We can put our bodies to sleep, grow our spirits to absorb higher vibrations and frequencies, and travel throughout the universe through with our astral bodies. Those who master this process can travel to the future and the past and can work rituals and change life experiences to guide future reincarnations. Keep in mind, time only exists in this dense dimension here on earth. In the universe, all things are occurring (past, present, and future) simultaneously.
How much sleep do we need? The average person eating the SAD (Standard American Diet) needs 8-9 hours of sleep per night. On average, most people get 4-6, so they are extremely deprived of sleep which challenges their healing experience. As you’ve probably already guessed from the Atlantean example, the more your body is healed, the less sleep you need. At the beginning of your healing journey, you’ll find yourself sleeping more. As you heal, the need for sleep decreases. As you enhance your spiritual practices and learn to quiet your mind, your need for dreaming decreases. No matter how much time you need, I encourage the following practices aligned with the circadian rhythms of the earth (since we live here).
Meditate 20 minutes or more each day.
Do not eat, workout, or do strenuous or deep thinking activities after 6pm.
Drink a cup of a relaxing herbal infusion like catnip, linden flower, skullcap, or sacred blue lotus.
Get to bed between 8:30-9:30 pm each night.
Sleep in a pitch black room.
Remove all electronic devices from your room or at least unplug them.
Make sure your bed doesn’t directly face your bedroom door.
Place your bed so that your head is pointing in the direction of the rising sun.
Cover bedroom mirrors while sleeping.
Practice deep breathing prior to sleeping.
While breathing deep, imagine your body sleeping and your astral body hovering above, connected by a silver cord.
Now that we understand more about the mechanics of sleep, I challenge you to make some beneficial adjustments to your sleep pattern and share how it impacts your health. By doing so, you will enhance the quality of your holistic health and have first hand experience to share with your clients.
Have you ever heard of Lilith? She’s an interesting character in the world of religious mythology. I was fascinated with this spirit some call goddess because according to most theologians who are familiar with Kaballah, she was naughty and definitely not nice. As I learned more about this eclectic and neurotic being, I started to see a connection with a scorned woman. Before you stone me, hear me out.
Let’s start with a blend of the biblical and Kaballistic stories. Rumor has it that Eve wasn’t Adam’s first wife. Lilith was Adam’s first wife and some say they were twin flames so you know this relationship was intense. This infamous couple experienced marital issues because Lilith demanded equality and liked to be on top during their sexual encounters. The nerve of her to want to be treated like she should be. When Adam didn’t meet her “demands”, she rolled out, went to the Red Sea, and started a supposedly sordid affair with Satan (you know, the supposed evil being who is blamed for anything not good). God sent three angels to drag Lilith back to her man but she refused to return. I guess Satan’s pimp game was stronger than Adam’s. So for whatever reason, God decided to give Adam a more docile wife, the one we know as Eve. They say Lilith was jealous and tried to get back with Adam but God placed a cherubim at the gate of the garden to prevent her reentry. That’s when all Hell broke loose.
One day, Lilith saw the serpent AKA Satan AKA Lilith’s man seducing Eve and decided to get in on the game. She worked on Eve to convince her that she needed to eat fruit from The Tree of Good and Evil, which was a forbidden tree and encouraged her to have relations with Adam during her menses. By the way, for those who don’t know, these patriarchal God stories demonize a woman while she’s on her period so men weren’t supposed to touch a woman during this time. In fact, they could not even be in her presence. Now we know the truth. They felt that a having sex with a woman during this time gave her ultimate control over a man. So, since Eve was able to convince Adam to get down with the get down while she bled, she was able to control his mind. This is supposed to be the real reason that Adam was gullible enough to disobey God’s commands and eat from the tree with the forbidden fruit. Of course this act caused Adam and Eve to be banned from the Garden of Eden. Wait, wasn’t Lilith banned from the garden, too? How did she get access to Eve? Maybe the myth writers forgot that part.
We won’t worry too much about that because Lilith had issues of her own. She had what they call demon babies. Over 100 of them and Satan was her babies’ daddy. They also say that she was raped. So let’s look at this life she lived. She hated being married. She hated male domination. She wanted to be on top (probably because that’s the only way she could be pleased sexually. Adam’s skills must have been weak). Eve took her man, who she really didn’t want but didn’t want anyone else to have him either. Her new man was spitting game to Eve, too. Dang! This docile chick just won’t go away, will she. I guess most men are a sucka for a woman who they can tell what to do. She’s barred from the Garden of Eden. She had over 100 babies that she probably had to take care of on her own AND another myth says God killed all of her babies eventually. Then to top it all of, some crazy men had the nerve to rape her repeatedly. Can a sista get a break?
These are the blues of a powerful amazing goddess under patriarchal rule. Broken down, busted, and disgusted! All she wanted was to get her groove on the way she liked it and have some say so about her life. Forget watching man-hating Lifetime movies. Read Lilith’s story instead. Lilith was the first woman scorned by patriarchal control in history and she’s left a legacy that goes far beyond what I’m sure she ever imagined. I’d love to hear your take on this. I will warn you that I will delete religious fanatic comments. We don’t need you to save the world on my blog post. Also, I encourage you to learn about Lilith on your own as she does possess some amazing qualities in addition to this tragic story I just shared.
So yes, A Woman Scorned and the Lilith Spirit are One!
Whew! I feel like a mighty weight has been lifted off me!
Last night, I was interacting online with an awesome sista from Philadelphia who like me, is shedding off her religious skin. During our e-conversation, I remembered that I had hundreds of books in the basement that needed to go. I have given many of them away and thrown many of them in the trash yet there were still more. Over the past few years, I could feel their heaviness yet I wasn’t motivated enough to trash them. Probably because I had invested thousands of dollars into this lifestyle and the library was the only thing left to remind me of it.
Well, in the middle of our conversation, I decided to make that move. There’s no need to keep that religious spirit active in my home for a moment longer. I went down to the basement and started boxing up books. Now the picture above this post implies I burned the books. I’m an author AND I believe in freedom of speech AND my ancient ancestral knowledge is choppy because some stupid jerks burned all of our books SO for this reason, I decided to go another route. I asked my husband to put them in the car and I took them to Half Price Book Store. I pulled up just as they were about to close. I flipped on my hazard lights and asked the young man at the door to help me.
At the end of the day there were 200 books yet they could only take so many according to their criteria. Now remember, I’ve been giving away and throwing away books for the past three years so there’s no telling how many there were when I started. I told the bookstore employee to do whatever they wanted with the remaining books and cash me out for the rest. I walked around and grabbed some books I had been waiting to purchase. After I subtracted the total of my new books from the total they planned to give me, I netted $54.50. In numerology, this adds up to the #5 which just happens to be the life path number for me AND my husband AND all of my children. At that point, I knew I did the right thing and between my third big chop and this move, I felt sooooooooo amazing and free! I did a little jig in the parking lot.
Now, I’m totally free from religious bondage, mind, body, and soul. Plus, I am getting better at letting go of attachments. I’m looking forward to the next phase of my spiritual journey which will involve continuing to renovate my iTunes library. I won’t even tell you how much I invested in religious music that kept me in bondage over the past 15 years.
There are many versions of white candle meditations and I wanted to share one that will help you learn to keep your focus and hold the vision to manifest your hopes and dreams. Mastering this technique is not the only way to do this work so if you have others feel free to share with us in the COMMENTS below.
What You’ll Need
1 white candle
1 candle snuffer
1 lighter or match
Sage or Reiki energy
Quiet space (for at least 30 minutes)
Shawl or blanket in case it gets cold
What You’ll Do
Use your sage or Reiki energy to cleanse the candle and yourself of the energy of the manufacturer, maker, store personnel, and store visitors.
Place your hands on the candle and set your intention for what you’d like to focus on for this meditation.
Light a white candle.
Sit in easy pose, lotus position, or straight up in a chair right in front of the candle.
Focus on the candle flame for as long as your can.
As you’re led, close your eyes and visualize the candle flame in your mind.
Hold that vision for as long as possible. If the vision fades away, either try to recall it or open your eyes and focus on the candle again.
Do this work for 20-30 minutes each day for as long as you’re led. If you’re led to go beyond the 20-30- minute timeframe, feel free to do so.
Journal about your experiences as you continue this practice.
For the past few years, I’ve been learning about programming advertisers use to get us to buy their products. Basically, the left brain is the conscious mind and right brain is the subconscious mind. It’s the place from where our conscious mind draws it’s energy. What the conscious mind believes, the subconscious mind acts on. People who want to control our actions distract us with repetitive messages and symbols. As I’ve studied this information, it dawned on me that we need to take more control of our own minds. Instead of allowing outside sources to program us, let’s consider programming our minds with our own thoughts, hopes, dreams, and desires. Here are some quick and easy steps to do just that.
1. Create your own mantra.
Spend some time thinking about your hopes and dreams. You can revisit your vision board, journals, or simply sit down and hear your own thoughts. What comes to mind? Jot down those words and create your own mantra. At this very moment, what comes to mind for me are the words free, spirit, love, and abundance. I can take these words and create my own mantra such as “I am a free spirit of love and abundance” or “I am free to love and I am abundant.”
2. Record yourself saying your mantra in an even, positive tone for three to thirty minutes. You can include calming, zen music in the background, if you’d like.
3. Find a quiet space.
4. Put on your headphones and play your recording. Be sure to close your eyes and breathe deeply. Feel free to repeat the recording for as long as you’re led. You can also select some sacred geometry on which to focus during this time. You can even chant your mantra out loud with or without the recording of your own voice.
5. Journal about your experience and see how your life changes over time.
6. Create more mantras and make more recordings.
What are the benefits of this practice?
Chanting can impact our endocrine system and impact the hormones that keep us happy.
Chanting stabilizes your heart rate, blood pressure, produces beneficial endorphins, and enhances the metabolic process.
You’re more likely to tune into the sound of your own voice, as it’s familiar.
You’ll learn to love the sound of your own voice, which means you’ll learn to love yourself even more.
If you listen while sleeping, your mantra will act as your personal lullaby.
You’ll have full awareness and an emotional tie to the mantra so you’ll receive it more readily.
You’ll program your own mind with words through familiarity and repetition. Remember, what the conscious mind believes, the subconscious mind acts upon. As you say the words consciously, you’ll begin to believe them and build new neural pathways over the limiting beliefs from your past.
When I was a part of organized religion, the God presence was shown to me through the image of a man. This viewpoint always seemed one sided but back then, I accepted what books and elders said and did what I was told. Despite my programming, I couldn’t deny these amazing experiences I was having with a divine energetic presence who seemed to be whatever I needed at the time. Sometimes the energy was maternal, sometimes it was paternal, other times it was free of gender and simply meet the emotional need I craved. Like most of us who experience things outside of the norm, I was afraid to go against my ministerial training and talk about it publicly. Especially since what was beginning to happen in my life wasn’t written in any book or taught in organized religions. When I did get the courage to share it with others, they would either say that was Jesus coming to me in the way I could receive him or that it was a demon. I wasn’t satisfied with either of those responses. Especially since I knew about Christ Consciousness and how that energy evolved into the person of Christ through historical events.
Several years later, I joined a radical church where I started learning more about the spirit realm. I felt more comfortable here because at least these folks were seeing things and not focused on reading a holy book all of the time. I’d dissected this book inside out in my own studies and minister’s training and frankly, I found so many contradictions that I couldn’t take it anymore. At least here, the teaching was prophetic and focused on spiritual gifts. The pastors often preached straight from the spiritual realm and the messages were always so amazing. Nothing contrived from a book. They took what they read in the book and went to the next level of revelation. Logos became rhema and it was a beautiful sight to see. Here, it was acceptable to share that I saw angelic presences or the throne room I thought belonged to God. Unfortunately, the moment I went outside of that box, they were ready to start anointing me with oil and casting out the demons that were causing me to have these experiences. Then one day, my dreams started taking me to another level beyond our the church’s teachings. I began to literally leave my body and travel to places in my dreams. I now know this is astral travel. At first, it started out with flying in the sky when dreaming, then I figured out I could direct my travels and started projecting to wherever I wanted to go. I remember being able to navigate without GPS or a map on a trip I took to the Bay Area in California in my real life because I was so familiar with the land from my astral travels.
One day, I decided not to go to work, and to spend time meditating, journaling, and practicing yoga all day. I’d been doing this in secret for years because it wasn’t acceptable in the church setting. They believed that if you meditated, you would go into an altered state of mind that allows demons to enter. They also believed that yoga asanas (positions) were honoring other deities. While there is some truth to their concerns, I didn’t care anymore because what was happening to me was phenomenal and I wanted to go further. During this day full of meditation, journaling, and yoga, I felt a sense of peace I’d never felt before and decided I would continue this practice. When I made this decision, I knew nothing would be the same. I could no longer call myself a minister or an elder and continue to live my life in this realm outside of the Good Book. So, I stepped down from every position in the church. No longer Minister Sherrice. No longer Elder Sherrice. No longer a prophetic praise dancer. No longer a Bible Study Cell Group Leader. No longer a Women’s Ministry Leader. All the titles, responsibilities, and church experiences went out the window. A once dear friend of mine told me we were now on opposing teams and he’d pray for me. I’m still sickened by the audacity of that comment.
Eventually, we left the church altogether. I decided to change my name and call myself Safiyah Naemah so that I could not be recognized by my church members when I started writing and teaching about my experiences. That didn’t last too long because Sherrice is who I am and I wasn’t willing to give up my name to hide from my family, my old friends, the prayer warriors and church gossipers. So I went back to being Sherrice and just didn’t talk about my spiritual practices with anyone who belonged to a church.
As the years went on, I went deeper into my practices and had a strong focus on womb healing. I learned how to communicate with MY ancestors, THE ancestors, and the ascended masters. I was fortunate enough to visit the places where I’ve lived in past lives in both the spiritual and natural realms. These experiences helped me understand my fears, desires, and purpose. I played with tarot cards, oracle cards, crystals, and all kinds of things that light workers do. While I enjoyed these experiences, I didn’t want to be a part of the New Age Movement because everything they were promoting was not new. It came from our indigenous ancestors. I had a strong focus on metaphysical and spiritual practices and my work with herbs even went to the next level. Then I started learning about duality and what people might call dark magic and learned to create my own rituals and practices. That’s when I started seeing real results and changes in my life that went beyond things you can see in the physical realm.
While working on a client’s health history, I figured out we were related. We started talking about our families and sure enough, we have cousins in common. She shared her spiritual experiences with me and made me feel much better about my own. One day, out of the blue, she sent me an inbox message on Facebook and encouraged me to start sharing my experiences with the world. That same month, I heard from so many people who saw posts of my experiences on social media but were afraid to connect with me because while they were having similar experiences, they weren’t ready to come out to their families and friends just yet.
Then something miraculous occurred in my life. I met Mama. Not my birth Mama, but the birth mama of all that was, all that is, and all that will be. What I understood is that Mama was Mama to me because she was reflecting my image. She might be Daddy to someone else but to me, she’s Mama. She wasn’t any particular gender, race or ethnicity either but she knew everything about them all. That let me know she was all things to all people and would become whatever they needed to connect in the spiritual realm. This made it easy for me not to argue with others about what I believed. I also won’t continue to hide behind the shadows, either.
When I met Mama, I couldn’t see her, of course, but I could feel her maternal, loving presence. For the first time ever, I felt a level of love and compassion I couldn’t explain. She held me tenderly while I cried. I know it’s strange that an energy or a presence can hold you. While it was happening, I was in awe, not sure how it was happening, and not trying to figure out. Yes, I was experiencing contrasting emotions all at the same time. I started sharing my perspective of love with anyone who would listen. I didn’t care who they were or what they believed, I knew we all wanted to be loved.
Over time, I started developing a relationship with Mama. It was the relationship I’d tried to develop with Jesus when I was in church yet could never quite get there. As Mama held me, I felt as if she were a tree. Then I realized I was a tree because she was a tree and I was her expressed image. Saying all that to say, we were the same same tree. I was a part of her tree yet I was my own tree. It was such a beautiful experience. I felt the pain of all my lives I poured out buckets of tears. As I cried, she didn’t wipe away my tears, she cried with me. Then, she showed me how our tears were watering our roots. She literally enveloped me in her presence and loved me even more. When the love was deeper than the initial love I experienced with her, I was shocked! This experience brought to life what I’ve learned for years about love. I always knew that love can go deeper and deeper and that love cannot be contained. I also knew that love was God. So this is the crazy part. Mama is what we call God. Some might say Mama is Goddess. I say Mama is the most high. She told me she didn’t need a title or a gender. She was whatever I needed at that moment. Call her whatever you want because language only confounds the true essence of who she really is. She told me she gave me every single thing I needed to fulfill my purpose on earth and that makes me a Goddess, too. Mama wanted me to know that all of the answers were within, I just needed to not be afraid to go there.
We have a hard time fathoming the idea that we are divine because it seems like we’re giving ourselves a super power that we don’t deserve because we have been taught that we’re unworthy. While I do believe there is only one source, I believe that source empowered all her creations with divinity. It’s not what we’ve been taught in our churches, temples, and synagogues. It’s much more esoteric than that. I believe these teachings can help us yet at some point, you have to go on your own to experience it for yourself. Our indigenous cultures understood this and that’s why they had coming of age ceremonies with sacred plants and fungi to help their young people access the God within. They prepared their children for these experiences from the time they were born. We prepare our children to be productive citizens not esoteric spiritual beings and that’s the real reason we’re in such a programmed state of mind today. There are people who are paid and revered to keep us programmed and they don’t even realize it because they too are programmed.
Now that I’ve met Mama and experienced love and compassion like never before, I can’t keep holding it inside just to please those folks who want me to be something I’m not. I was all of those things because I didn’t know the most high for myself so I followed their pattern. It served me well at the time and I thank everyone who contributed to my spiritual growth. As of today, I’m cutting the cord and publicly pursuing my own path. I’ve been doing it, just hiding in the shadows. Now, thanks to Mama, I’m coming out!
Just as the ocean’s tides are affected by the moon, so are our moon cycles. When our bodies are in tune with the natural rhythms of nature, we bleed with the new moon and ovulate with the full moon. Since most women bled at the same time in indigenous cultures, they often gathered in a common hut or tent to bleed together. This was a powerful time of rest, pampering, creativity, and high magic in many cultures. Women in the moon hut or red tent would partake in activities such as grooming and massaging one another, writing music, reflecting on nature, lucid dreaming, visioning, doll and cake making to honor their goddess of choice, intention setting, and a variety of other rituals during this time.
In this modern day and age, there are lights everywhere. These artificial luminaries are a blessing because they allow us to extend our day beyond the sunlight. At the same time, they are a curse because they through off our body’s natural rhythms. This is the reason women bleed at different times of the month outside of the new moon. So our goal is to get back to the practices of old to make us even better in the new. One such practice is setting intentions. Since the moon is not visible when it’s new, the darkness prevails. Spiritually speaking, this is the best time of the month to plant the seeds of your intention. Throughout the month, you can water them and watch them grow. The seeds are our intentions for our lives and our prayers, affirmations, spiritual practice, and action are the four things that help bring one’s vision into fruition.
So how do you set you intentions during the new moon? Follow the steps below.
Get a sheet of paper and a writing utensil.
Write your name and date on the paper.
Relax and take some deep breaths for one – five minutes.
Ask yourself, “What’s my intention for this new moon?”
Write down up to ten intentions.
Speak each intention out loud and say Ase’ at the end of each intention.
Say a closing prayer over your intentions.
Keep them in a safe and revisit them accordingly as needed.
Here are some quick rules of thumb.
Only write down those intentions that feel right with your spirit.
Don’t expect overnight manifestations.
Don’t try to do new moon intentions for other people. Focus on YOU.
Do not throw the intensions away or burn them until they manifest.
This blog post is part of the Yoni Magic virtual event. Back then, I was going by the name Safiyah Naemah and my business was called Safiyah Heals.
Meditation has many benefits from reducing stress to clearing the mind. Another benefit is how the act of meditation aids in creative manifesting. Since meditation helps you connect with the divine within you, you’ll learn to use your thoughts and energy to create what you want.
In this meditation, we will use carnelian stones or a yoni egg. Carnelian is an orange color stone that aligns with your sacral chakra. It is one of the oldest gemstones, treasured by the ancient Egyptians. The clasp of Isis was carved from this gemstone. This stone promotes joy, laughter, and an open heart. All the things necessary for love of others, love of self, and love of nature. The stone has been used for mental and physical balance, to spur ambition, strengthen self-confidence, and help one achieve their goals. It’s even been used in the treatment of infertility. When one cannot make a baby, infertility is manifested on a physical level. If one cannot manifest their dreams, then infertility is on a spiritual level.
The Yoni Magic Meditation is designed to positively impact spiritual infertility and increase your capacity to love. I encourage you to do this meditation each time you desire to create something new or if you feel you’re lacking in creative energy. Over time, you will see amazing changes as long as you have an open mind and open heart.
Here’s how the Yoni Magic Meditation works.
1.Prepare your meditation space by eliminating distractions and making the space inviting
– If you use candles, use orange candles
– If you use essential oils, use orange, lemongrass, or neroli
– If you use incense, use amber, as it stimulates the sacral chakra – sexuality and procreation
2.Place one carnelian stone in each hand and or insert your carnelian yoni egg (if you don’t have the stones or an egg, bring something orange into your meditation time)
3.Sit upright in easy pose. You can use cushions, pillows, or whatever you like.
4.Verbally express love to the creator and invite creative loving energy of love to overtake you.
5.Close your eyes and find your center.
6.Visualize what you want to create or what you need to create it.
7.Breathe deep in and out for counts of 13 for 13 minutes.
8.Say the Yoni Magic Affirmation.
I believe in love. I breathe love. I promote love. I am love.
I design love. I invoke love. I salute love. I am love.
I breed love. I honor love. I value love. I am love.
I speak love. I exude love. I share love. I am love.
I embrace love. I accept love. I cherish love. I am love.
9.Close the meditation with a prayer to thank the creator.
As women, we take on so many responsibilities that we often forget to take some time for ourselves. There are many ways for us to physically take time for ourselves including going to the gym or fitness studio, hair salon, nail salon, or the mall. Those of us who love nature might go on a hike or walk in the park/woods. Today, I’d like to encourage you to create a sacred space right in your own home.
Here are a few items you might include.
Crystal chalice for water or other beverage offerings
Pictures of ancestors
Tarot or oracle cards
Sacred geometry pictures and figures
Orgone crystals and generators
Personal or family artifacts
Whatever you’re led to place on the altar
Be sure to cleanse and bless the items on your altar and keep this space clean and sacred.